Singles
1. Are you single by choice? If so why and if not why?
Will - No, I was released from my obligations via text message on
Valentine’s Day….Classy huh.
Brandi - Single by choice. I recognized an unhealthy and increasingly emotionally and financially stressful situation and decided to get out while I still had the strength to do so.
Bernard - No, because for some reason I seem to attract the crazy ones, the ones that don’t have their life together from all aspects or the ones that are just in it for pleasure purposes.
Sherry - Yes I am single by choice. I am really tired of Knuckledhead Men. I will wait for Mr. Right to come along!
2.) What are the qualities you look for in a mate?
Nykita - My dating philosophy is that I never expect more in a mate than I offer. This pushes me to constantly improve as a person in order to maintain a high standard. This list could be very long but I’ll give you the short version. My mate must be (from inside out )intelligent, open minded, spiritual, considerate, loving and attractive. He also must have Swag, which is an indescribable “it” factor that draws me to you. Individuals that have Swag are usually confident but not cocky, cool but not indifferent and are comfortable in just about any setting.
Dre - Intelligent, open-minded, attractive, ambitious, established and good hearted.
Charlie - I primarily look for great conversation about all things life, not just sex, status and accomplishments. I look for someone who understands the value and importance of having a relationship with God and someone who’s working out their salvation. I know they won’t be perfect but if you’re actively engaging those aspects of your life, I can respect that. A person with a sense of humor who doesn’t take themselves too serious is great and someone who wants to travel and see and experience different things is a must. As it relates to looks, it’s a mix of what you physically look like along with the aforementioned qualities that makes up “the” way that I look at you.
Keith - I look for honesty, an un -precedent ed realness, a literal mirror reflection of myself.
3.) Is it important for the person you meet to be religious and politically savvy?
Travon - No these are things that can be acquired as long as they have an open mind
Sherry - Religious not really, but they must have a faith! Politically Savvy? Nah! Not important to me!
Bernard - Is not important but it would be better to have someone that has the same belief that u have, but also its interesting to have someone that has different beliefs because I love conversations and that would be a good conversation and understanding as well.
Brandi - Equally as conscious of both as I am would be nice.
4.) Do you worry that you will always be single?
Charlie - Sure I do, and I cannot say that I would be thrilled or look at it as the “gift of singleness” (Who came up with that crap—a gift) because marriage is a desire of my heart. However, I do recognize that being single could be my reality and I talk to God about that all of the time. I’m clear that if this does become the case, this isn’t a burden I can carry by myself and I ask God that He shows me how to live the most fulfilling life in the absence of that desire because I don’t have the answer.
Will - Sometimes and then I think that it might be better than dealing with all of the drama that comes with relationships.
Nykita - No, I really believe that I will fall in love and get married one of these days. I am a strong believer in the Laws of Attraction and I feel that if I strive to stay positive and full of love for myself and others,that’s what I will attract.
Dre - Nope…and if I am I’m perfectly willing to accept that. Life is a lot more than finding true love.
5.) Does race play a part in who you decide you want to be with?
Keith - Yes and No. I tend to lean more towards my bruthas but I'm
open to love in every capacity.
Sherry - Believe it or not, it really does! I find that after my split
with my husband that was white, Im not attracted to white men anymore! Think I
need therapy?
Bernard - I do not discriminate but I do prefer people that are my race or exotic lol
Nykita - Well, my first preference is to be with a fellow Liberian because I want to move home in my thirties. I've found it to be easier to date someone with the same culture, However, I’m keeping my mind open to whomever the most high has for me.
6.) When you find the person you want to be with will you marry them? Or do you believe spending your lives together will be enough?
Charlie - Marriage is a must because I deserve to be honored in that fashion. For those who are content with living your life together, more power to you and I would discredit anything they know about relationships because they’re not married.
Travon - As long as I am happy I do not need a piece of paper.
Sherry - I think when I find them I will make them mine! Whether that’s marriage or life partnership! As long as there is no infidelity!
Keith - It would be nice to marry but I'm content spending my life with him. Marriage is of the heart. Marriage is not paper.
Brandi - I cannot honestly answer that question. I won’t know until I am in that situation.
Bernard - Ummm I do believe that if you find someone that takes your breathe away than they should consider marriage once they have a strong base of trust, commitment, and knowledge in general of each other. I don’t think marriage is something that everyone is ready for because it is a choice where you are suppose to be with that person until “DEATH.”