Wake
Up
Life Support- July Edition
By: Brite Moon
Britemoon.rising@gmail.com
We live in a crazy world. The minute it starts to feel like we’ve got everything under control we come against another twist or turn in the road. With new challenges to tackle and increasingly difficult obstacles to overcome, I sometimes feel like there needs to be two of me just to make it through the day.
I would be the last person to want to admit it but I am guilty as well. I think I can do it all and in no time flat. I take on too much at one time and refuse to recognize when I’m overwhelmed. With all of the comic book heroes coming to life on TV and the Big Screen you can’t help but be encouraged to think that you could be one too! After all, Superman is merely Clark Kent with an “S” on his chest. So why can’t I have an alter ego too?
I’m learning though, to bite off only as much as I can chew and taking time for me in the process. You can’t please everyone all of the time, but you can try to find balance in the meantime. A Superwoman I am not, but since trying to create some balance in my life, I’m recognizing the difference between the regular woman in me and the superwoman I’d like to be. I think both are pretty awesome!
Now onto the July Edition of Life Support………
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Dear Brite Moon,
I have a really great friend who is beginning to express a romantic interest in me. I am completely comfortable as friends and do not want to pursue anything romantically. How do you tell someone that is interested in a relationship with you, that you prefer to keep things platonic?
Signed,
Fantastic as Friends
Dear Fantastic as Friends,
Really good friends are hard to come by and when you find someone you feel that close to, honesty should not be an issue. Be upfront and open about how you feel and the reasons you want to keep the friendship as it is and not move in a romantic direction. Take off the kid gloves, this is not the time to skip around how you really feel or leave any unclear impressions. Treat your friend no different than you would anyone else. The last thing they need is to feel that the situation is now awkward. This does not mean to ignore how they feel though. Keep in mind that the heart is unpredictable and that their feelings may be hurt by your lack of reciprocation in the emotional department. Give them time if they need it, to deal with what you’ve said and to decide if they can still handle the friendship. In the end, they will appreciate your honesty and hopefully be able to maintain the same type of relationship without any issues. Remember, the key to any lasting relationship is to always keep the lines of communication open.
Dear Brite Moon,
I hate my Ex-Boyfriend! I would love more than anything to never see his ugly face again!! He is very popular in the nightclub circuits and every time I go out to a club he is always there. One part of me wants to stop going out altogether because I don't want to see him. Another part of me feels like I shouldn't stop my life and normal routine for the sake of him?
What should I do?
Signed,
Bitter
Dear Bitter,
You have this situation sitting extra pretty right in the palm of your hand and you don’t even realize it! True, it sucks that you have to see him every time you try to have a little fun, but don’t let him be a reason to be stuck in the house. The last thing you need is to be worried about an “EX”. They’re an “EX” for a reason. What makes the situation even better is that he has to see you too! Now don’t get me wrong, I am not a spiteful person, but seeing him see you having a fantastic time without him… girl please!! Eat that up like candy. Men will flock to you like crazy because your confidence will be through the roof!! Trust me, dude will know what a good thing he’s lost and you’ll be checking on the next guy to see if he’s worth what you have to offer! Life is short, have fun!
Dear Brite Moon,
I have recently come in contact with an old high school classmate. We have always been cool, and I always thought he was cute, but never really looked at him in that way.
Well, out of the blue (bored) I decided to browse one of those online sites. I didn't really know where to start so I searched my high school & his photo popped up. Let me say, manhood sure looks good of him. We have chatted and it has intrigued me more, but I'm not sure if he still only views me as an old high school chum.
How do I go about letting him know that I find him attractive and I'm interested in becoming more than friends?
Signed,
Curiosity is Killing Me
Dear Curiosity is Killing Me,
Subtle gestures work wonders, but they have to be made in order to make progress. Think of some of the things you enjoy doing and ask him to come along. You already know one another and this would be a good time to catch up in person. If the chemistry is there you both will know it and things will move along naturally. If it isn’t there, you haven’t hurt anyone by just hanging out. Don’t waste time guessing and worrying about what the next move will be if you haven’t made the first. Although we’d love them to be, men are NOT mind readers! He will never know what you’re thinking unless you tell him and you won’t want to tell him until you know how you feel around him. See where I’m going with this….. Get out and enjoy the company of this cutie and worry about where it could go later.
We’re half way through the summer and things are really heating up! Let me know what’s got your temperature rising!
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