Can A Book Save My Marriage?
Written by: Chenita “Infinite Apex” Dickerson
Take a look into a book; you’ll never know what you will discover. Marriage is a committed relationship between two completely different individuals who have two completely different mindsets, views, and thought processes. Can a book save my marriage? On a personal level, I would want to say, “No.” However, on a practical level, my response would still be, “No.”
Saving a relationship of any kind requires willingness, patience, and perseverance. Before jumping to drive off in search of a Barnes and Nobles or a Books-a-Million, one must first ask themselves is saving their marriage a priority in their life; what are they willing to give up, deny and reject in themselves from their own thought process?
Books are silent friends who don’t judge and who can’t tell our business or remember all the garbage we
spilled about our half, be it a better or bitter half in our life journey.
Often discovered while in search of relationship deliverance is that the dilemma we are in is often rooted and a catalyst to our own personal struggles and aspects of ourselves. I’ve often said that life is comprised of choices. There are seasons to every purpose under heaven. Saving a relationship doesn’t mean it will be worth the time or effort devoted or that the relationship will be better; it will just be there. Some things are meant to die and reading is a good beginning to self discovery. Ultimately, it is the decisions that we make or don’t make that decide our fate.
Often, when we seek to change another, we ourselves are changed. So, if we adjust our viewpoints and open our minds and hearts to the possibilities that eXist on the pages of another’s thoughts, then maybe we will save ourselves while attempting to save our relationships, which could save our marriage.
Books are silent friends who don’t judge and who can’t tell our business or remember all the garbage we spilled about our half, be it a better or bitter half in our life journey. The notes we keep can be thrown away or burned. We can highlight or steal thoughts for our own. We can put the advice into practice without the fear of our spouses knowing we are in savior mode. Just discussing a book we are reading can be enough to spark an argument in an already destructive situation. If you are in desperate need and need to be discrete, keep the book at work or in your car. Technology is such that books are available online, through iPhone apps, and tapes or CD for one’s convenience. Libraries are free and books stores don’t mind if you grab a chair and finish the entire book in the store.
Can a book save my marriage? On a personal level, I would want to say, “No.” However, on a practical level, my response would still be, “No.”
Faced many times with obstacles in my own current marriage, I have found myself, as a last resort, flipping through a book, delving into anything, searching for an answer to questions concerning my spouse. I often do Google searches for information on marriage. This is not to say that all information is good information; one must decide for oneself what will work. People still write books and there are no absolute answers to anything. Almost 100% of the time, although I have gained insight into the relationship and have learned a lot, I am the one who was in need of an overhaul. A curtail to my becoming a better person, which in essence has folded over into my relationships and marriage, has been my willingness to change.
A book alone is never enough. If it were, divorce rates would not eXist. Decide what you want and whether you would still want it if your spouse didn’t. Books often take us on journeys we would never admit we wanted to eXplore. Can a book save your marriage? No, but knowledge, understanding, patience, willingness, perseverance, and faith can…
