Who’s the Most Judgmental Amongst Males & Females?

Written by: ^Northernstar*

 

judg·men·tal (jj-mntl)
adj.
1. Of, relating to, or dependent on judgment: a judgmental error.
2. Inclined to make judgments, especially moral or personal ones: a marriage counselor who tries not to be judgmental.

 

In a world where many people like to criticize others for the things they say or do, I find it common that most of us (teens, adults, elderly) have been guilty of judging someone (at least one time, including myself). Is it good to judge anyone? Well, no. Nine times out of ten, the individuals being judged are battling uncontrollable situations that have overtaken their lives.

 

Scenario I:
Tonya & Ashley are walking to the bus stop and they stand next to a beautiful, dark skinned woman with no eyebrows & a short haircut. Tonya whispers to Ashley, while they both laugh at the woman’s close cut, not realizing the woman has been battling breast cancer for two years and has been receiving radiation/ chemotherapy treatments.

 

The statements many people make about others are ridiculous, especially when they don’t personally know the individuals or judge them by their appearance. In general, people can be very judgmental… but, the question is… who is worst amongst males & females?! I asked the same question to many of my followers on Twitter & Facebook, and a few people from the streets. A great number seemed to think women are the most judgmental! Below are REAL responses from people ages 16-22 I received about women:

 

“I think women are judgmental because they seem to carry their bad past eXperiences in their newfound relationships/friendships.”

 

“Women are by far the most judgmental... probably because they are often insecure… That’s how it usually goes… If a woman sees another woman as a threat or isn’t feeling good about herself, it makes her feel better if there’s negative attention shifted towards someone else, reflecting it away from her...”

 

“I’d say females! Hard to say why. I just think of females gossiping about one another and about other guys. Of course, guys can do that, too, but I find females will do it more openly… They eXpress themselves more to each other.”

 

“I feel like it’s women. And largely because it was learned from our mothers. Most young women would see their mothers and their friends sit around and gossip and talk about someone’s particular problems and we'd see them be the judge and jury condemning some for their actions while eXcusing another. It’s taught from infancy up. Then, religion plays a role. We tend to take the Bible and make it black and white, right and wrong; but, forget a lot of it is grey area and a person’s personal choice and again we play judge & jury and base it off the Bible.”

 

“As a woman, I feel we need the constant need to compete with other women. In doing so, we lower our standards. Because we want to be loved and we want relationships, we put up with so much bull****. We're always the first ones to tell our friends, "Girl, I wouldn't deal with him," but we got a bum a** dude at home that we dealing with. It's like we cheapen ourselves for attention, but not everyone does it the same way. Some women can be so sneaky with it, too. I'll see what else I got!”

 

“Like a woman will pick a person apart and judge you in a min. A man is very nonchalant and could care less.”

 

“Well, I just think that, in general, women are quicker to place labels or categorize things and people, whether negative or positive. Whereas men tend to be more "go with the flow"-ish and then go from there. They can be more open-minded about things...”

 

“Definitely women! I saw two girls that were supposed to be friends and, as soon as one of the girls got up, the other one still sitting down turned to one of her male friends and started raging on the girl that left.”

 

I found the aforementioned responses to be very thought-provoking & true on so many levels; however, my agenda was to stay as bias-free as possible! A few of the responses above claimed that guys are “more” open-minded than women & they are “go with the flowish”, but let’s see a second scenario!

 

Scenario II:

 

Jamaal is introduced to his sister’s male best friend, Tyrone. Tyrone goes to shake Jamaal’s hand, but Jamaal is hesitant because he assumes Tyrone is gay. Jamaal’s sister pulls him to the side and asks Jamaal what the problem is. He answers, “I’m not shaking hands with a gay dude.” “And what makes you think Tyrone is gay?” she asks. “Because he looks like he is. No straight dudes I know wear skinny jeans or are best friends with a girl unless they are having sex with her,” he says. “Well, believe it or not, Tyrone is happily married to a woman with three kids,” she says as he wears a dumbfounded eXpression.

 

That scenario I created displayed that men can be just as judgmental as women, and can be very closed-minded. Below are the many responses from people who thought men were more judgmental than women:

 

“I always think of the fat husband that wants his wife to be perfect... but women are judgmental, too, by nature, it seems.”

 

“Men really judge us women more after they use us. They go talk to friends and don't really tell women much because most of the time it is just sex they are really looking for anyways. I don't know what more I can say.”

 

“Men are so concerned with the "I don’t want them to think of me that way" type stuff, so they try to put on a front. They are just trying to live up to the potential as "MR. PERFECT". So, everything that is abstract or un-normal they protest.”

 

“Men! I’m not talking about all men, but a majority of them just look at things from the outside. And women are more forgiving, not all women, but a majority of women. Say, for instance, if a man cheats on a woman… she is more likely to forgive him. But, if a woman cheats on a man, he isn’t necessarily willing to forgive her, and that has to do with his ego.”

 

“I say Males… especially gay males because they ALWAYS have something to say about SOMETHING. And I think it's like a pride/GUY thing as well… They judge girls for doing this and that; they judge other guys for this and that. Sometimes females seem more laid-back than guys do.”

 

I’ve come to the conclusion that both males & females are EQUALLY judgmental. In some areas a guy may accept, a woman may dismiss, and vice versa. But, we as humans don’t have the right to judge. Leave all the judging to God because only He can determine where we’ll walk in the after-life!

 

 

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