On How Love Is:
Star Compatibility

Written by: Billy Winn

 

Is it possible that we, as seekers of love, rely on too many outside sources to determine whether or not a relationship is right for us? I have always been a follower of the stars—diligently checking my horoscope and finding that, as far as personalities go, I am an Aries to the bitter end. I have also often relied on the stars to tell me whether or not I should take a love interest seriously—sometimes before I even give myself a chance to make that determination. Having eXperienced both positive and negative results from whom my zodiac said I was compatible with, I wonder if those situations were truly written in the stars, or if I sabotaged them by not following my heart?

 

We need approval of our relationships from a source outside of ourselves for whatever reason—sometimes finding it in the most obscure of places. For me, that place was in checking my zodiac handbook every time a new prospect came my way…

 

The situation that first comes to mind is that between a Leo and myself. Allegedly one of the zodiac’s power couples, the two of us were so right for each other—perfectly reinforcing the things we shared in common, and complimenting the things that we didn’t…Of course, this was all just in theory. The reality between me and my unrequited Leo love was that, when things went wrong, which they often did, I rested on the idea that things would get better simply because we were meant for each other—despite the constant tell-tell signs that the relationship was caustic for both of us. In the end, we both walked away a little jaded by our supposed cosmic connection, but that did not stop me from continuing to look to the zodiac to tell me if a person was someone I should be with or not.

 

The truth about what I was doing was not that I was solely relying on the zodiac to help in the determination of my love interests—but that I was looking for confirmation outside of the relationship to determine whether or not it was good for me. We all want those we hold dear to our hearts to like and (at the very least) respect the person we chose to be with, but for many of us, the minimum is not enough. We need approval of our relationships from a source outside of ourselves for whatever reason—sometimes finding it in the most obscure of places. For me, that place was in checking my zodiac handbook every time a new prospect came my way—for others I know, it came from following the steps of movies like “How to Loose A Guy in Ten Days,” or “Two Can Play that Game”. And, for others, it is taking their potential lovers around parents, siblings, friends, church members—anyone they can find that will simply tell them what they should be doing by way of their relationship.

 

Having eXperienced both positive and negative results from whom my zodiac said I was compatible with, I wonder if those situations were truly written in the stars, or if I sabotaged them by not following my heart?

 

Considering the very shaky ground relationships can often stand on, I personally see no problem in getting a second opinion when a love interest comes your way. However, let it only be a second opinion—not the decision that makes or breaks a situation that you ultimately have to live with. To this very day, I carry my zodiac book with me, and also take my love interests around those I trust—just to make sure I’m not in over my head. But, at the end of each day and each relationship, whether or not I am in over my head is a decision I leave on my shoulders—only occasionally looking to my loved ones, and to the stars.

 

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